In my dad's case, the combination of his diagnosis coming ten years after his initial symptoms began, mobility problems with his knee, living in a rural location and, most importantly, a sharp deterioration in his dementia following a significant stroke (which was what finally led to his formal diagnosis of vascular dementia), meant that his doctors ruled out any return home from hospital, and he went on to spend the last nine years of his life in care homes.
I have many happy memories of those nine years, and this blog certainly isn't intended to 'bash' care homes, but it is fair to say that given the choice I'm as certain as I can be (bearing in mind I can't ask my dad) that he would have preferred to live those nine years in his own home. For people in different circumstances (IE: a more timely diagnosis, less advanced dementia, and potentially living somewhere less isolated) remaining at home should be the default option, unless they expressly want to move into a care home.
The main barriers to a person with dementia successfully living in their own home are usually:
• Living alone, without a family member to support them, or carer
breakdown because too much pressure has built up on a family member who has
been providing support (I've written about carer issues here).
• Lack of funding (either personal or public) to engage professional
homecare support, or an inability to find reliable and specialist dementia
trained home care support (I've written about homecare issues here).
• An environment that, however familiar it's been in the past, has now
become a hostile place for the person who is living with dementia.
It is often very difficult for the family and
friends of a person with dementia to understand how somewhere so familiar
as the person’s own home can potentially become such a hostile place for them
as their dementia progresses. After all, that familiarity is usually the main
argument for the person remaining in their own home. It is worth considering
that aside from the obvious issue that the person with dementia may stop recognising
their home as their home, the home itself can present significant issues.
It's pretty rare that any of us signpost up our
houses - we know which rooms are what, and what lies behind every cupboard
door. But for a person with dementia, it may become vital to use signage (text
and pictures/photos) around the home in order for the person to successfully
navigate around their environment every day. Doing that can also help to avoid incontinence
issues, because the person has visual clues about where the toilet is and can
hopefully get there in time. In addition to signage, you could also repaint
doors to colours that contrast with the walls surrounding them.
Once in a bathroom, most of us like to have
everything matching and often white, but it's well known that a person with
dementia may struggle to navigate the bathroom if everything blends in
together. What can really help is to add some colour, for example by changing
the toilet seat, toilet flush lever and shower curtain so that these items
stand out.
Kitchens are another place where we like to have
matching items, with fitted kitchen that have numerous identical cupboard doors
and drawer fronts. Again, some signage can assist a person with dementia to
find what they are looking for, helping them to retain independence in the
preparation of food and drinks. An alternative to signage might be to replace
the existing solid doors with glazed doors, or some open areas like a plate
rack and mug tree so that these items are clearly visible. Signage, changing
doors or having open areas also applies to other cupboards around the home, for
example in the bedroom or bathroom.
It's not all just about signs either - lights
can also help with navigation, particularly at night, and often at floor level
to guide the way to the bathroom or down the stairs. Contrast is also important
at the dining table – if the table cloth and the plates for eating all match,
it can be difficult to know where to place food and eat it.
If there are concerns about a person falling,
sensors can help to monitor movement, and for people who are living alone, call
bells to alert family or emergency services if the person has hurt themselves
are vital. Likewise there are also sensors to prevent flooding (from taps not being
turned off) and to make cookers safer. It's also important to think about
security - both from bogus phone calls and undesirable people who may come to
the front door.
Other environmental changes might include
removing or covering mirrors, if the person is experiencing difficulty understanding
what they see in a mirror. Think too about flooring and furnishings. Patterns
can become distorted, so be mindful of this in relation to wallpaper, and some
flooring can appear to look like glass or water. Changes in floor coverings
from room to room or using rugs can all be problematic as they may appear to
indicate a step to a person with dementia. Even the TV can be an issue if the
person struggles to understand that what they are seeing is on television and
not actually in the room - this was a problem my dad had in his early,
pre-diagnosis years.
Eventually, items like a stair lift, adjustable
chair, profiling bed and bathroom modifications like a walk in shower (with
shower seat) and even a hoist may be needed. There is no denying these items
are hugely expensive, and even some of the more 'low level' modifications
listed above come with a price tag attached.
So what happens if you can't afford to make your
home more 'dementia friendly'? In short, you probably end up in hospital or a
care home, often before you really 'need' to, just like my dad did. That is the
sad and frankly shocking reality. Little has changed in the 13 years since my
dad was in that situation, except that more people are being diagnosed with
dementia and the UK is deep in austerity.
To be a country that is truly the best place to
live with dementia, we have to find a way to support what sounds like a very
basic aspiration - "I want to remain in my own home" - at a time when
trying to get help from your local authority for care and/or equipment needs
is likely to be met with anything from resistance to outright rejection.
I would, however, implore all families to do
what they can - even the very low level things like signage, a night light,
and making your bathroom less 'white', will go go some way to supporting a
loved one and prolonging that period of living at home. One of my main criticisms of the film 'Still Alice' was that it didn't portray the
things families can do to help their loved one to navigate around the home. For
an educated, resourceful family like the Howlands it was astonishing that such
modifications of the environment didn't happen as a matter of course. For
anyone reading this blog who finds themselves in the same situation, I hope
that there is some inspiration for you to do things a little differently to Alice
Howland’s loved ones.
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