Monday, 20 August 2018

Supporting LGBT people with dementia

Almost a year ago (September 2017) saw the launch of the Dementia Action Alliance’s (DAA) ‘From Seldom Heard to Seen and Heard’ Campaign. The campaign focuses on people living with dementia and their families from six communities who are often marginalised from services and support: Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender + (LGBT), Black, Asian and Minority Ethnic (BAME), Young onset dementia, The prison population, People living in rural communities and People with learning disabilities.

I’m a national member of the DAA, and proud to have worked with the team in developing this campaign, mostly by utilizing my extensive knowledge and experience of working with people who have a learning disability and dementia. I wrote about BAME communities in my October 2017 blog, my March 2018 blog was all about rural communities, and last month I told Kathy’s story, about living with a learning disability and dementia.

For this post, I want to think about the challenges for people with dementia who are lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender (LGBT+). Of the six groups the DAA campaign focuses on, LGBT people with dementia are the most hidden of all in my opinion and arguably the most stigmatised, coping with societal attitudes towards their age, sexuality and dementia at the same time.

Many older lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender people have led a life that's been all about hiding away, characterised by fear and intimidation. Historically as a nation we haven’t been welcoming to LGBT people with layer upon layer of discrimination and ostracisation, not to mention violence and criminalisation. Indeed, homosexuality was illegal in the UK until 1967 and was classified as a mental illness until 1973. 

Since then, the immense changes that have happened legally and societally will have brought a huge amount of relief and joy for many LGBT people, but it's important that my generation - who see PRIDE marches and same-sex couples marrying - don't forget the struggles that remain vivid in the minds of some LGBT people who are now ageing. Examples like this, of a care provider celebrating with their own PRIDE event are still few and far between. No aged-care client that I work with has done anything like this to my knowledge, and I know from quizzing learners at my training sessions about how we meet the needs of people from different communities, including LGBT, that I usually get blank looks.

One of the big motivators for writing this blog came from what a learner said to me a few weeks ago, echoing others in the past: “We don’t have anyone living in our care home who’s gay!” It’s an interesting assertion that many staff struggle to quantify since they have to admit that they don’t know the full life history of every person they provide care and support for, and that which they do know may be the ‘acceptable’ front that so many LGBT people in their 70’s, 80’s and 90’s have cultured from a young age to protect themselves from the worse of what society would have thrown at them over their lifetimes.

With the development of dementia, however, that carefully protected private life can become extremely vulnerable to intrusion in so many different ways. Contact with health and social care services may be something that a lesbian, gay, bi or trans person actively avoids due to fears from their earlier life of medical professionals who tried to ‘cure’ them through ‘conversion’ therapy, much of which would have come under the umbrella of old-style psychiatric services, and of course modern-day psychiatry is a key part of dementia care now.

If an LGBT person has a partner, that person may be assumed to be a relative or friend rather than a partner simply because they are the same sex, and difficulties around a homosexual partner having the same rights as a heterosexual partner remain commonplace. The disadvantage doesn’t end if the person is single either – a person with dementia who doesn’t have a partner, children or other loved ones to advocate for them is likely to have poorer experiences of health and social care services, and due to their sexuality, many older LGBT people may have become estranged from their family.

Life can feel very exposed for a person with dementia, and exposure may be the very last thing someone who’s never come out, or who struggled to come out many years ago, wants. A person may feel the need to come out repeatedly as they meet with the numerous different professionals that characterise most people’s experiences of health and social care services. Working out when it is ‘safe’ to disclose your sexual or gender identify can be difficult enough without the added complication of dementia affecting your cognition and decision-making abilities.

Issues around trust can be hugely challenging, not least since the person may be terrified of people who are effectively strangers providing care and support or any peers that they are living with in a care home environment making hurtful judgements should they learn the person’s sexuality or gender identity. Problems around personal care can be particularly acute, since the person may worry about being punished for their sexuality, or may be fearful of any scars from gender reassignment being noticed, commented on, discussed by colleagues or documented in a care plan.

We talk a lot in social care about supporting people to feel engaged and to express themselves, but if you’ve been born male and feel most comfortable identifying as a woman and dressing accordingly (or vice versa), trying to be yourself whilst living in a communal environment may feel impossible. For that person the risk of isolation and loneliness, and potentially more rapid progression of their dementia as a result, is a very real possibility.

So how do we overcome these challenges? I’m not naive enough to believe that care homes or other social care environments can universally become places that are welcoming and inclusive for LGBT people overnight. But while we cannot necessarily influence the viewpoints of the person’s peers, I believe that progress can be made in educating the workforce.

When I first designed my training modules a few years ago, I will admit I didn’t include education about any seldom heard groups. Now, I talk about LGBT, BAME, and LD communities routinely, as well as younger people living with dementia. Presenting the idea that staff may be supporting a person from the LGBT community and questioning assumptions is a first step towards improving inclusion. 

Importantly, it also ties in with everything I teach in relation to life story work. The idea that not everyone wants to share their life story, or that they may share what they believe are the ‘acceptable’ details, rather than those they fear are ‘unacceptable’, are some of the biggest challenges in how we understand the person’s past to improve their support today.

Acknowledging where difficulties like these lie, and pooling our knowledge to improve how we meet the needs of our ageing LGBT population, is so important if we are to make services more responsive to lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender people who are living with dementia and need, more than anything, to feel less stigmatised… not more.

Until next time...
Beth x







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